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Staying Calm In a Crazy World

It’s not easy controlling your temper when bad things happen. Here’s a few simple steps to taking control of a rotten situation and coming out of it smiling.

Staying Calm In a Crazy World

By practicing compassion on a daily basis, a magical thing starts to happen. You actually become happier.

Everywhere you turn, there is a new annoyance just waiting for you. Your children fighting, constant calls from telemarketers, and what do you mean my furniture won’t be delivered on time?! Ugh!

Five years ago I’d be one of those people huffing and puffing, sighing, and clenching my teeth. I wasn’t a full blown hot head, at least not on the outside. I would tend to keep it all in - let it come to boil. I was a ticking time bomb just waiting to go off.

Eventually it would come blasting out, usually on the freeway after some jerk cut me off. Whoa Nelly!  I wouldn’t hold anything back. I’d flip that joker the bird and cuss a blue streak that would even make Andrew Dice Clay blush!

Here is what I learned when the smoke finally cleared. Getting angry did absolutely nothing for me. Nada. Zilch. Sure it “felt” good to release that adrenaline but in the grand scheme of things, it didn’t change my life for the better.  What I did eventually discover was how to change these ordinary nuances to something I can really learn from.

The next time I encountered a difficult person (like the 16 year old check out girl who cared more about texting than working) I looked at the situation as an opportunity to become a more compassionate person. “I don’t know what that person is going through,” I thought to myself. “She could have an abusive father. Her mother might be ill. Who knows?”

I started paying gratitude for experiencing these “negative” situations. I changed the “why is this happening to me” talk into words of compassion. After all, I don’t believe in random acts. These things, no matter how small and insignificant it seemed, were happening to me for a reason. I decided that the reason was so I could practice empathy, patience and compassion.

By practicing compassion on a daily basis, a magical thing starts to happen. You actually become happier. Really! Don’t believe me? Try it! But wait, it gets even better. It turns out that happiness is contagious so the people around you start to feel happier, and so on, and so on… (cue the Prell Commercial)

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes that just says it all:

“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” – Dalai Lama

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