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Say YES to Saying NO!

Say YES to Saying NO!

Just say “no”.  Immediately makes you think of the 1980’s and Nancy Reagan’s anti-drug campaign, right?  We were taught to stand up to peer pressure and not to give into the bad influences that we could be faced with.  But now we are all grown up.  And saying “no”, for me at least, has taken on a whole new meaning. 

As a mom of 3 kids ranging in age from 8-17, I am pulled in many different directions.  As a child of divorce, my family tree is full of branches.  As a wife, I have married into a family of in-laws, complete with their extended families.  As a friend, the pressure is on to carve out some time to keep my relationships thriving. 

Taking time for yourself sounds cliche and simple.  But it’s really difficult for me (and most women) to draw those boundaries.

40 is quickly approaching, and I am learning that it is impossible for me to be all things to all of the people in my life.  I’ve started taking baby steps and saying “no” when I need to.  I listen to my instincts and when the pit in my stomach tells me not to pile another thing onto my already overloaded plate,  I say no.

I think the key to successfully (and gracefully) saying no starts with believing it.  Believing that, even if you say no, you are still whole.  You are still a person who deserves the love of family and friends.  That no is not the same thing failure.  Not even close.  In fact, it is success.  It is sending a message to friends and family that you love yourself enough to say when your plate is full.  It is modeling for your children that self-love and preservation start with setting limits and maintaining balance in your life. 

There is a sense of empowerment that comes with being able to say “enough is enough”.  That feeling can be exhilarating.  It can also be motivating.  Yeah, I know.  Easier said than done.  But I’m working at it.  Try it.  You may surprise yourself.

About our guest blogger:
Kathy Podair is a mom to 3, including 2 teenage girls and one precocious 8 year old boy. 
She has her Masters Degree in Social Work, with a primary focus on substance abuse and family relationship dynamics. 
When not riding the roller coaster of life as “Mom”, Kathy can be found writing social media content for various web clients. 

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